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Wednesday, January 20, 2016

REJOICE! REJUVENATE! REJOICE!




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Joy to the world the Lord has come!”  Christmas, a favorite time of the year, has come and gone. Hopefully the zeal to live the Christmas message still remains. The joy that fills your heart has a way of fleeing as the last guest wave’s goodbye. The skip in your step is absent. Your smile is fading and the alarm clock seems to be going off way too soon. Your days are starting without you. Your get up and go just got up and went. What is the matter, you ask yourself? You look in the mirror and don’t even recognize yourself. You wonder what happened to the Spirit of Christmas; has it “past?” You feel like you have been on a treadmill nonstop for an entire month. Sad to say you did not even lose a pound. You have shopped until you dropped, wrapped thousands of presents, cleaned, baked, decorated, hosted, and enjoyed family and friends. Now the focus on Christmas has been replaced with New Year’s parties, New Year’s resolutions and life as you knew it before Christmas. You realize that you are too tired to even think
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“Help!” you cry out into the silence. You are irritable, overworked, and sleep-deprived. Of course you are; join the club! Christmastime can be exhausting. It is the time of year that you add another entire life to your already busy, full, blessed, life. What is a woman to do? Solutions sail through your head like “visions of sugar plums dancing with glee.” Run away to an exotic island all by yourself? No; your family would miss you. Sail away on a Caribbean cruise? Can’t do it!  Money is scarce due to Christmas generosity. Go around the world in 80 days? Who would drive the carpools or fix the meals? A thought brings you back to reality; wait a minute, I love my life as a mother and wife! Before you say, “Stop the world, I want to get off,” the reality, I am just exhausted, hits you.
Don’t let the Christmas rush sail you into a season of winter blues. After the Christmas holidays exit, be sure to usher in a time of rest and relaxation. It is time to slow down and rejuvenate! How do you do this when everything is calling your name? You have less time, less energy, and less sleep but more commitments, and why rejuvenating* never finds its way to the top of your to-do list. Never do you need to restore more than when you are in a busy season, like Christmas, a new baby, a move, or a wedding. This is sound advice, but rarely do women heed it. However, if one takes the time to restore and rejuvenate, energy increases and time is better managed. Then you  can  look in the mirror and recognize yourself again. If you take the time to rejuvenate you seem to accomplish more in less time. This, I assure you, is the formula for healthy living. In order for you to take care of your family well, you must also take care of yourself. This wisdom is only learned through experience. Do not let guilt paralyze you and drag you into the land of “down on yourself.” To avoid this, take the time to rejuvenate. You will be happier, healthier, and better equipped to serve your family. I challenge you to try it and see for yourself.

Everyone is different. All women restore in different ways. So learn to do what helps you rejuvenate best. Here are some suggestions:

IT’S ALL ABOUT ME DAY: Take a mental health day. Schedule in your calendar once a month, perhaps on your birthday number, a day all to yourself for doing what you like to do. Avoid work and increase rest. It will do wonders for you.

PRETTY UP DAY: Take a Spa Day complete with a pedicure, a manicure, and a massage. Feeling well groomed does wonders for any woman. Now that you are all dolled up and relaxed, have a date night with your mate: dinner for two at your favorite spot.

LETS DO LUNCH: Take time for lunch with the girlfriends. Do not invite just any one to lunch, but invite girlfriends that know your faults and like you just the way you are: girlfriends that you can share anything with because they, like “Depends,” never neither leak nor judge you. They know how it feels to be up with a colicky baby for way too many days. They remember how hormones have a way of coloring your world grey. These rare friends are a fine treasure needed in life to help you find the road of acceptance and love, when your world is falling apart.

ROAD TRIP: Take a get-away weekend. The change of scenery will change your life. Things always look better when on vacation.

MAID-FOR-A-DAY: Every mom needs help now and then. Have a maid you can call on when you need her. When your to-do list never seems to make it to the finish line, it is time to wave the white flag and call the maid. Don’t put it off until tomorrow; get help today. If something has to give, let it be the housework because babies cannot wait.

MOMMY TIME: Everyone needs a mommy to nurture them. Plan a trip to see your mother, mother-in-law or mentor. Pick the one who will love and support you most. Be encouraged, built up, get advice, throw your cares to the wind, and be the princess of the day. Let the love of one who cares about you put that million dollar smile back on your face.

MOVIE NIGHT: Take a break and watch funny old movies. Laugh until your sides hurt. Try viewing those where moms are in the character list. “Cheaper by the Dozen,” “Sound of Music,” and “Mary Poppins” are my personal favorites. Don’t forget to pop the popcorn!

ALIVE, HEALTHY, AND FIT: Join the gym and make a commitment to be there weekly. My friends coined this phrase, “Exercise and prayer are a girl’s best friends.” Moms need them both in a huge dose. Then you will feel good inside and out.

LET THE SUNSHINE IN: Sit in the sun and make a list of all the things you cannot get done. Show the list to your best friend. Let her help you decide what is attainable. Make a new list with columns for “important,” “urgent,” and “unimportant.” Last column is “someday/maybe”? If your list is too long, destroy it; relax and enjoy the sunshine.

GIRLS NIGHT OUT: Leave the children at home with a responsible adult and give yourself a needed break. Just relax and enjoy the girl-friend time together.

YOU TAKE MY BREATH AWAY: Plan a date with your mate. Hire a babysitter for your children. Then fix a special meal, light the candles, and use the good china. Dress like a lady, buy a new dress, put on the high heels and wear his favorite perfume. Treasure the moment by enjoying alone time together. Remind him that he is still the one who takes your breath away.

REST IN THE LORD: Take the time to nourish your spiritual side. Take time each day to stop and pray. Retreating with God in prayer puts peace into your world. Go to daily Mass, find a spiritual director, join a Bible study or join a ministry, and get to confession. Putting God first restores you from the inside out.

FIND A PRAYER PARTNER: Having a woman to pray with every day will become a blessing in your life, beyond compare. Prayer partners encourage you when you are down and remind you of God’s goodness. You do the same when they need to be encouraged most.
Last but not least, and my personal favorite, RETREAT WITH THE GIRLFRIENDS: When I need to rejuvenate, I go on a retreat with my three best friends. These weekend away retreats are a treasured time that I look forward to, and essential to my life. Even Jesus had to get away to pray. I highly recommend retreating with the girlfriends. I try to get away on retreat at least twice a year. Just like the disciples Peter, James and John did women need to go to the mountaintop for a retreat with Jesus. You will come back renewed

Taking the time to rejuvenate will bring the joy and the life of Christ back into your world. You will have a new skip in your step. Your smile will reappear. You will awake ready to start the day, serving the Lord with gladness. You are fearfully and wonderfully made, so take the time to rejuvenate when you need it most. Slowing your life down after running on the treadmill of life way too fast, for way too long, is part of healthy living. It helps you to be a better you. Then you will be a better wife and mom too. Save this article for the days you need to rewind your life to a place of rejuvenation. Then rest, restore, relax before returning to life as you know it, as a brand-new you. Never forget everyone needs nurturing, love and care. So whatever you do, take time for you!

Psalm 23 encourages, “He makes me lie down in green pastures. He restores my soul.”
Rejoice! Rejuvenate! Rejoice!

*[Rejuvenate:  to make (someone) feel or look young, healthy, or energetic again: to give new strength or energy to (something). (www.m-w.com)]

Copyright 2015 Ellen Mongan
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Monday, January 11, 2016

THE BACKPACK

The Backpack



As we begin another New Year, it is a time to begin anew.  A time to access what went right. What went wrong?  What did not get off the ground at all?  As 2016  takes flight let’s attempt to glide through the year as if on the wings of an eagle. Hopefully this article will give you some flight instructions because our estimated time of arrival into 2017 is already less than a year away. How time flies. All aboard and welcome to 2016.

Just a few short months ago, a new school year began.  Many backpacks were being filled with the essentials needed for the first day of school.  Now as this New Year begins I’d like to ask you a question What essentials are necessary for us to pack into our lives in order to live a healthy, happy, highly productive year? I have come to the conclusion that if you desire your year to be successful, you must travel light. You must eliminate some of the things from your life that are weighing you down. It is the time to take an honest assessment of your life.  Do you walk through life with a backpack of bricks on your back or are you free as a bird? The lighter your heart is the easier it is to take flight.

So what is in your back pack?  Let’s take a look. Is there worry? Anxiety? Fear? Self-doubt?  Disappointment? Anger? Bitterness? Be honest with yourself because everyone seems to have a brick or two in their backpack. Some people are brick collectors. Other people have even strapped on another’s pack on their own back and are carrying two. Life has taught them that sometimes burdens become so heavy that you can cannot carry them alone. Sometimes our backpacks are so heavy we cannot carry them alone either. Your desire is flying through the air with the greatest of ease but those heavy bricks have weighed you down. You are unable to leave the runway. What a New Year’s gift it would be to you to be able to fly through life as free as a bird. What has grounded you? Is it problems within or problems without? Have you single-handedly taken on the cares of the world? When lending a helping hand to one in need you must guard yourself from stepping over the line from burden-sharer to burden-keeper. Everyone needs a little help from their friends, now and then, but avoid taking on a false burden. It never helps anyone. Being an enabler will fill up your backpack faster than you can say, “My plate is already too full!

Do you know that the bricks in your backpack are seen on your face? I bet you thought that they were covered up behind your smile. What you think you have carefully hidden comes into clear view the minute that you open your mouth. The words you speak out reveal what is inside.  In fact when you least expect it an imaginary brick full of words that you can’t take back pops out of your backpack and hits someone right in heart. They almost never see it coming. They don’t even know what hit them.  I can tell you first hand that the bricks you least expect hurt the worst. Most do not have the Southern Charm to politely say, “Duck! Brick coming your way!” Once that brick is let out of the bag, there is no stopping it. Unfortunately, a brick or two lands in their back pack. You may never know how heavy a load they packed on until the day they are pushed to the limit; they may throw an invisible brick full of hurtful words back at you with full force. This time you feel the pain and feel the weight of the words heading toward your heart. So how do you avoid packing bricks or heaving them others?
  1. If a person seems to always rain on your parade, always have an umbrella handy or make encounters short but sweet.
  2. A hurting person hurts people. Lead them to a counselor or they will lead you to having to find one for yourself.
  3. Guard your mind and you will guard your heart.
  4. If you can’t seem to forgive, talk it out with one who can listen and give you wisdom.
  5. Write down past hurts. Recognizing the problem is one step closer to the solution.
  6. Call, write or visit people you need to ask forgiveness of.
  7. Keep a Memory Box for yourself filled with cards and letters that will uplift your soul. Look through it on a challenging day rather than throwing a pity party.
  8. Surround yourself with positive friends that encourage you.
  9. Avoid controlling people who won’t let you be yourself.  In a relationship two people’s opinions count.
  10. Cultivate a thankful heart.  Voice gratitude out loud and through the written word by sending letters, cards, and e-mails.
  11. Read Gary Chapman’s Book, “The Five Languages of Apology.“
  12. Guard what is coming out of your mouth.  Ask a good friend to give you feedback.
  13. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
  14. Focus on others and not yourself. Become a generous giver of your time, talent, and treasure.
  15. Think the best. When in doubt ask questions. Bringing things in the light puts out the darkness.
  16. Avoid judging by trying to see things through others’ perspectives.
  17. Practice patience.
  18. Remember the relationship is always more important than who was right or wrong.
  19. When tempers flair and bricks begin to fly, learn to close your mouth and open your arms in understanding. Sometimes the best you can do is hug at the line.
  20. If at first you do not succeed remember tomorrow is another day.
After you have emptied you backpacks of the bricks that weighed you down you have room to pack a much lighter load. Try filling it with joy, kindness, patience and peace. Then add a little laughter and friendships to keep, and soon you will be flying as if on the wings of eagles. Pack your backpack carefully and you will have a healthier, happier, more highly productive year. Fasten your seat belts now because 2016 has already taken off. Please enjoy your  flight!

Friday, December 11, 2015

SANTA NEVER STRESSED

Have you always prepared for Christmas in the fast lane?  Are you so busy getting ready for Christmas that you are too exhausted to celebrate Christmas?  Do you begin to rejoice when the last carol is sung, the last present opened, and the last guest says farewell?  Have you always wanted to simplify Christmas, but never really knew where to begin?  Then read on because this article is for you.

On that first Christmas morning, the day of our Savior’s birth, what words did the angels say?  If I recall it was, “Peace on earth, good will towards men.”   Now if Christmas was going to have a theme song that would be a good choice.  I am convinced that the angel’s words are still pertinent for today.  We all could use a little more peace in our hearts, in our lives and in our world.  Let’s seek peace!

Mom, have you ever lost your peace?  Peace isn’t something you can purchase, but oh what a treasure if you posses it.  I aim at living a stress free life.  I say, “Let Peace Reign.” all year long, but especially at Christmas.  Let’s be honest with ourselves, no matter how much we desire peace, keeping our peace at Christmas, can be a major challenge.  Why?  It seems like we have just finished doing the Thanksgiving dishes when, “Black Friday” shopping is in full swing.  Did anyone bring the thanks?  Now to our already full life of carpools, jobs, homework, and fixing meals, we add shopping, wrapping gifts, Christmas parties, decorating, and the list goes on.  It seems like we add another whole life to our life.  Secondly, as great as Christmas is, it has become too much.  Yes, Christmas has become a season where there is too much to do and no time to do it in.  Somewhere along the way we have all spent so much time planning and preparing for Christmas that we have become too tired and too overwhelmed to enjoy it.  Even sadder, we have lost the true meaning of Christmas. We sing Christmas Carols together like, “Joy to the world… but are we living a life of joy?  It seems like the only one who is smiling is Santa Clause.  Why are we not humming in our souls, “TIS THE SEASON TO BE JOLLY?”  Why is Santa so happy?  It is because his helpmate, Mrs. Claus had it all covered.  She has been very, very busy, making a list and checking it twice, shopping, wrapping gifts, and packing Santa’s sleigh with a bag full of toys.  All Santa needs to do is, make sure that his red suit fits, hitch the reindeer to his sleigh and shout, “On Dasher, On Dancer, on Comet, On Vinson!” If Santa’s GPS is working, he will be down every chimney in town before we even wake up to say, “Merry Christmas.”

 So what is the solution to Christmas stress?  Simplify!!!  It will take some time to think, time to pray, and time to vow to change.  So..., before the season begins, take some time to decide what to change and how to go about it.  First, think about, what is important and what is not?  Do you want to start something new or do things the way you have been doing?  Put some ideas on paper, and then make a plan.  Just having the plan on paper is not enough; you have to make it a reality.  Christmas cannot happen on its own.

Did you ever hear the expression, “Change is good?” or “Less is more?”  Be open to change!  What is your biggest Christmas stresser?  What can you do about it?   Life is too short.  Remember Santa never stressed and besides, no one wants to be around a grumpy Mrs. Clause!

Here are some suggestions to simplify:

A wise woman said, “Ellen, your expectations are so high that no one can meet them, not even yourself. Are your expectations attainable?

Take yearly reality check? What are your circumstances this year? Are you pregnant? Do you have newborn? Are you moving to a new home? Are you healthy in mind, body and soul? Lower your bar if necessary, and be realistic.

Before you shop, do your homework. Think lists, read sale catalogues, check online, research yard sales, and network with friends.

“If mom did everything she would be dead.” Learn the four letter word H-E-L-P!! Use it often and learn to delegate. This is a great opportunity for you to draw out the gifts of family member and friends.

 Rotate the place to celebrate as a family. House hopping for holidays is a sure recipe for holiday stress If at all possible, goes see your parents after Santa has a chance to come down the chimney, and has left with his reindeer.. Being home for Christmas gives your child great joy and peace.

Less is more and more is less. Do a few things well and a lot of things, do not do at all. If it is too stressful just say, “No?”

 Learn to enjoy God’s presence and people’s presence, more than presents. After all, what is more important? Never before have people meant so much as at the holidays. All of our days are numbered. Treasure the moment and make memories that count.

Shop early or better yet, shop year round.

Watch what goes in your mouth. Think healthy living. My friend Salle says, “It not a diet, It is a Live It.” Go on a live it and avoid the having to be the biggest loser after the New Year begins.

Watch what comes out of your mouth. Think positive speech. Guard your thoughts and it will guard your heart. Positive speech gives you grace, joy and energy needed to get everything under the Christmas tree.

 Do not take on any extra commitment after December 1. If you focus on Christmas alone you will make it to the finish line. Learn from the book, “The Tortoise and The Hare.” Pace the race, do not race the pace.
  Shop early or shop late if you want to get everything finished, for there is much too much to do in the middle. Trust me on this one.

. If you lose your peace stop, slow down take a breath and pray. Keep Christ in Christmas. He is the reason for the season... Put Him first and He will give you the peace that passes all understanding.

 Use the Christmas Season to cultivate a thankful heart. Be the gift of THANKS--LIVING that the world needs.

Learn to barter with other moms, babysitting, wrapping, shopping, and baking errands. One man’s trash is another man’s treasure. In other word, one woman may love to shop another bake.

 Write a family newsletter, complete with family pictures. It will be of great joy to those who receive it.

Do not compare yourself to others. You be the best you, you can be. Avoid jealousy; never try to be someone else.

  Do not forget the poor. Include your children in whatever you decide to do.

Shop ahead, bake ahead and cook ahead.   Mail early, wrap early and deliver early.

Avoid giving to get, and learn to give to bless. Be a cheerful giver and grateful receiver, no matter what. Be a blessing to all you encounter.

Give gifts from the heart. They are the best gifts of all.

22. Give random gifts to the people God puts on your heart, even if they are not on your list. Do random acts of kindness.

23. Instill family traditions.

24. Wrap each child’s gifts in a different color of wrapping paper.

25. Draw names where ever possible. Draw names with family members, with co-workers and with friends.

26.  My best stocking advice is this, “Keep it simple.”  I had to cut out stockings all together in order to keep my peace.

27. One of my friends used to give her children three gifts per child, in memory of the three kings.  If you think that that is simplifying Christmas, consider this, my husband and I would only give our children one gift each year.

28. Make the food simple. Our family Christmas dinner was appetizers and finger food when the children were young. Remember when in doubt order out. 

If you are stressed to the max, take time to Rest, Refresh and Restore because there is always tomorrow to finish, unless of course it is already December 24th. . Then, hurry up there is work to be done.  Santa is about to come to celebrate the birth of our Savior, Jesus Christ.  If you are really, really quiet, you can almost hear the angels singing, “Peace on earth, good will towards men.” This is only in the silence of your heart.  Take the time to, “Be still and know that, He is God!”  Life is a gift that is why we call it the present.  Take time to enjoy the moments. We are too blessed to be stressed. Merry Christmas to all!


                

Saturday, November 28, 2015

SISTERS IN CHRIST

Featured Speaker & Topic:    Dorothy Spaulding with “Friends & Neighbors,” straight from WATC-DT TV, Atlanta: a show of “humor & heart!”
What:  “Sisters in Christ” is invited to be part of the audience of the live show of Club 36 @ 10am-12pm                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   

Followed by lunch, a testimony & tour of the station: cost is $12 per plate.  RSVP is a must!

When:  Monday, December 7, 2015, 10 a.m.
Where:  WBPI-TV 49,  1750 Knox Ave, North Augusta, SC
Mission Statement:  The mission of “Sisters in Christ” is to provide an opportunity for fellowship for all women who believe in Christ Jesus as Savior and Lord.  As the Body of Christ we stand together united in a love for one another.  Let us learn from one another and together make a difference in this world!
Please RSVP to Ellen Mongan @706-833-3529, LittlePinkDressMinistry.blogspot.com, or Facebook page “Sisters in Christ Augusta”.


Come and bring a friend, all are welcome!

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As he continued his journey to Jerusalem, he traveled through Samaria and Galilee. As he was entering a village, ten lepers met [him]. They stood at a distance from him and raised their voice, saying, “Jesus, Master! Have pity on us!” And when he saw them, he said, “Go show yourselves to the priests.” As they were going they were cleansed. And one of them, realizing he had been healed, returned, glorifying God in a loud voice; and he fell at the feet of Jesus and thanked him. He was a Samaritan. Jesus said in reply, “Ten were cleansed, were they not? Where are the other nine? Has none but this foreigner returned to give thanks to God?” Then he said to him, “Stand up and go; your faith has saved you.” (Luke 17:11-19)
God healed the ten lepers even though he knew in advanced only one would return and give thanks. I guess they forgot their manners. God still has children who seemed to have forgotten their manners. A wise mother “trains up her children in the ways of the Lord”: in virtue and with grace. Thankfully, our God is faithful even when His children are not. A mother knows that kind of love, agape love that expects nothing in return. As a mother of many I am blessed when a child or grandchild of mine practices their manners!
It is by living out our vocation as a Catholic wife and mother that we pass the faith down to the next generation. Our home, the “little church,” becomes a training ground to teach our children the one, holy, catholic, and apostolic faith. Looking back on my motherhood journey I find that passing down a love for the sacraments, growing the children in virtue, and establishing family traditions were my main focus.
On Thanksgiving Day, families will gather together with grateful hearts to eat, drink and be merry. They will connect, remember when, and tell stories of bygone days. In my family, it is a holiday you do not want to miss. My mom won’t let you. She was a caterer and food is her big thing. I, jokingly, call Thanksgiving my mom’s “High Holiday.” She gets such a joy out of cooking all Thanksgiving week to make the family favorite foods. Celebrating Thanksgiving as a family is tradition.
Wouldn’t it be great if every day our hearts were filled with gratefulness and love for one another? How do we live a life of “Thanks-living”? How do we teach our children to do the same? As with every virtue as it is practiced, it grows in our heart. In other words, passing down the faith, is best done by living our faith, being a good example of virtue and testifying to the goodness of God.
I think that one way of growing an attitude of gratitude is to remember when. When we assist at Mass we hear the words, “Do this in remembrance of me.”We remember Jesus and His disciples at the Last Supper when he instituted the Eucharist. We are thankful for the Body and Blood of Christ which feeds our soul. When we read the Word of God, we are reminded of God’s faithfulness to His people. When we recite the rosary we contemplate the life of Christ. On All Saints’ Day we are reminded of those holy men and women who have gone before us. By reading about their lives we learn ways to walk in their footsteps. We are grateful for their living example. As we recount our loved ones who have gone to glory before us, we do so with hearts of thanksgiving. By remembering when, we are able to cultivate a life of “Thanks-living.” The more we remember what the Lord has done for us, the more God fills our hearts with thanks and the more we want to live for Him.
One of the treasures in our home is a faithfulness shelf. My friend Judy explained what a faithfulness shelf was:
The Old Testament book of Joshua, chapter 4, describes a scene where God did another great miracle for the children of Israel who were under the leadership of Joshua. God once again parted the waters of the river so His children could cross safely on “dry land.” Each representative of the twelve tribes was to gather a stone from the bed of the river while the water was being held back, and create a visual memorial on the other side of the river. This memorial was to remind the people of God’s amazing, miraculous faithfulness to future generations. Let us also be careful to explain God’s amazing work in our lives, as we each have stories to tell of His faithfulness and love toward us to our children, grandchildren, and others.
When Judy showed me her faithfulness shelf, I had to have one too! Whenever I give a tour of my home, I always begin by showing my faithfulness shelf. FSI take out a few items one by one and tell my guest the story behind the item. Each article that has found its home on the faithfulness shelf is placed there to remind me of an event in my life where God was faithful. My faithfulness shelf is like a walk down memory lane with Jesus. “In Him I live and move and have my being.” As I am telling the story of each priceless item, my heart is filled with joy. As I remember when, faith wells up in my heart reminding me of just how much God loves me. He is the Father of Everlasting love who never forgets His people. Sometimes we feel far away but, He is always at our side. He is faithful even when we are not. His faithfulness to me often brings tears to my eyes.
One day I was praying with my prayer partner, Judy, while getting ready for a church event. I want you to know that I am not a multitasker, and I usually pray with my eyes closed. This day was different. Applying make-up at record speed, I hoped to make the finish line with peace still in my heart. My goal was to beautify in five minutes. In a moment, in a twinkle of an eye, without any warning at all, time stood still. As I took a pause from my everyday life and glanced into the mirror in front of me, I spotted my faithfulness shelf behind me in the reflection. Tears welled up in my eyes that I was unable to control, like a waterfall rushing full force down a mountainside. My life in Christ seemed to pass before me as I reflected on so many ways God has blessed me. “Judy!” I said through sobs, “Our God is faithful!” Then I repeated it, only louder, “Judy, Our God is faithful!’’   Even though it was difficult to understand the words I was trying to say, through so much emotion, she knew what I meant. We have prayed together for over 20 years.  She knew God’s faithfulness in her own life.  It was on that day that I learned the blessing of having a “Faithfulness Shelf.” My faithfulness shelf displays items that represent many precious memories.
One of my favorite items is the pictures of three babies. Above the pictures of the babies is the scripture, I Samuel 1:27, “I prayed for this child and the Lord granted my request.” I am reminded of the day I went to St. Augustine, Florida where they were displaying a picture of Our Lady of Guadalupe. It is there that I fell on my knees, begging the Blessed Mother to intercede before the throne of God for three women who desperately wanted a child. God granted all three of them their hearts’ desire. 3 BabiesTwo of the babies came knocking on the door of their parent’s heart through the gift of adoption. God put it all together.
Upon one shelf is a mug that says, “It’s all good!”  Its All GoodIt was placed their after my father-in-law Bill passed away. He came to live with us after he was diagnosed with lung cancer, stage four. I was to be his full-time caregiver. Not being a medical person of any sort, I felt insecure and underqualified. God sent me a Simon to carry the cross beside me. My son Joshua was the perfect choice. Not only did Joshua embrace the cross, but lived the words, “It’s all good.” I learned that when travelling down the path of suffering it is a must to bring a friend along who possesses the gift of encouragement. Joshua fit the bill. He loved his grandpa; listened to his stories, took him on outings and even carried him on his back to the bathroom. Bill was given a peaceful and grace-filled death with the family at his bedside. It was all good!
Lastly, is an item that always makes me laugh! It is a figurine of a nun holding a broom. I had been a Catholic School girl who always wanted to be a nun, and definitely a Carmelite. This desire grew and grew until I reached high school and discovered boys. From then on I was always found with a fella at my side. One day I took a test to see what I would be when I grew up. Not to my surprise at all, I was supposed to be a Mother Superior. On my way down the path of vocations, I met a cute young medical student, Patrick, with an unforgettable grin. He took my breathe away. We married and embraced our vocation, having eight children. I tell my family I was supposed to be a Mother Superior, but instead I am a “superior” mother. Sweeping NunI can still pray like a nun, but I never did learn the art of sweeping. When I chose the vocation of being a wife and mother, I never looked back!
Telling our stories helps us to grow a thankful heart. If we pass down the stories from generation to generation, they become our legacy. We all have a story to tell. This Thanksgiving Day let us tell the story of what God has done for us. Let us remember when, and be joyful all over again. Let us teach our children to do the same. As St. Francis said, “Preach the gospel where ever you may go and when necessary use words.”  The visual effect of the items on my Faithfulness shelf speaks volumes. They always say, “A picture is worth 1000 words.” As I tell the story of each item in my faithfulness shelf my children are listening. One priest used to teach parishioners, “Our faith is not taught, it is caught.”  Pitch your children a faith they can catch onto.
What about those lepers at the beginning of my article? I have been doing a lot of thinking about that scripture. Nine did not take the time to stop to say a quick, “Thank you!” to Jesus, but did they tell their story? Boy did they have a story to tell; a miracle that was so life-changing, it would be hard to keep silent about. They would surely have to let the story out. I also wondered, did they ever grow a grateful heart? Let us take some time this Thanksgiving to reflect on God’s goodness to us. Maybe we would like to start a Faithfulness Shelf of our own or at least journal our journey. God still parts the Red Sea, sends a rainbow after the storm, heals the leper, raises the dead, and fills our cup to overflowing! Our God is the God of miracles. The greatest miracles take place in our hearts. When hearts change from asking God for what we want, to thanking God for what we have, a miracle has occurred. When we tell our story we get to rejoice all over again. Tell your story. Tell your story out loud and pass the faith down to the next generation. Let us proclaim God’s praises, “Oh, Oh, Oh, Oh how good is the Lord.”
What story would you like to tell the world? Stand up, go forth and journey on the road of “Thanks-living!”
Copyright 2015 Ellen Mongan
Photos copyright 2015 Ellen Mongan. All rights reserved.

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Ellen Mongan is a Catholic writer and speaker who has been married to Deacon Patrick Mongan for over forty years and has seven children and twelve grandchildren. Ellen is also the founder of little Pink Dress Ministry, Sisters In Christ, Titus II Crew and Women Fests and a frequent guest on WBPI TV. She serves on the board of and as a blogger for Elizabeth Ministry International.

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Tuesday, November 17, 2015

I’LL BRING THE THANKS
By Ellen Mongan

They say, “The older you get the faster time flies.”  I can attest to that, as my fifty-eight year old brain tells me Thanksgiving is approaching way too quickly.  Is anyone bringing a thankful heart to their family table?  Some say old age can make you bitter or better.  The journey of life gives you many opportunities to decide which attitude of heart you will adopt for yourself.  Each trial you encounter and the daily choices you make put you in the direction of one road or the other.  However you always have time to get your GPS out and see if you are on the right course. The movie “GRUMPY OLD MEN” gives a visual of why we want to change to a different route if grumpy becomes the mood of our hearts.  If you choose a bad habit repeatedly, that behavior eventually becomes the character of our personalities.  So given the choice between bitter or better, let’s adopt, “I’m not getting older, I am getting better,” as a theme song for life. Then make it a reality by being determined to choose to improve.

This Thanksgiving consider bringing to your feast, along with the pumpkin pie, the sweet potatoes and roasted turkey, a heart full of thanks.  I promise you every one at the table will beg for a second helping.  Adopting an attitude of gratitude takes time and effort, but it is worth the journey. Growing a thankful heart helps you see your blessings and fills your speech with appreciation.
This Thanksgiving Day cultivate your thankful heart by going around the table and give a toast of thanks. Then open the table conversation with favorite thanksgiving memories all can share from their hearts. Be sure and take a moment to privately tell each of the guests why you are grateful to have them in your life.

Last thanksgiving, I decided to show my appreciation for my mom, who has hosted Thanksgiving my entire life for over fifty family members. The good news is that my mom is a caterer who will say with pride in her voice, “I worked until I was 80!”  I arranged for a friend of mine who is a TV reporter to do story on, “An Old Fashion Family Thanksgiving Celebration,” with my mom as the star.”  She was delighted as were all who attended. The best part was viewing the news clip together that night.  Mom and I joke about how she was a “Movie Star” at 84.

Another Thanksgiving, we gathered as a family with a glass of wine in hand to toast my dad who had died with little warning, two years prior.  This day, there was such a void, especially when it came time to carve the turkey, which he the family patriarch had always done. As you might have guessed, the heartfelt sharing’s, full of laughter and tears will be etched into our memories forever.  One of the grandchildren topped us all.  He shared about the day he and grandpa drove to Wal-Mart.  Grandpa apparently went the wrong way on a street, but quickly pulled into Wal-Mart parking lot before the oncoming cars took both their lives. He said, “I was little, but big enough to know that grandpa had done something wrong.”  I think the fact that grandpa said, “We do not need to tell anyone about this incident, John, now do we," reinforced John’s suspicion of grandpa’s wrongdoing, but John never leaked a word.

 So as Thanksgiving approaches remember when you were thankful for the people in your life, and share the memories.  Did one of your teachers make such an impression on you that you desired to be a teacher one day yourself?  Did a best friend come to mind, one you haven’t seen for a many years?  It may seem like yesterday that you exchanged secrets with each other, or laughed with until your sides ached at a sleep-over party.  Is it your step children that come into your memory, who you raised but have, seem to lost contact with thru divorce?  Maybe a mother of one of your childhood friends comes to mind, who was like a second mother to you.

 Do you have a broken relationship with your parents, siblings, friends or your grown child? Life gets busy, time flies, we put off until tomorrow what we should do today.  Don’t procrastinate any longer, repair that relationship today and reconnect with whoever it may be.  If it is one of your children, write them let them know they still live in your heart.  Encourage that woman who was like a mother to you.  Now is the time.  As Bill Gaither sang, ‘Yesterday is gone and tomorrow may never come, but we have this moment today.”  Do some memory searching, my friend, then reach out in love. Who knows, someone may even reach out to you this holiday season and your “FLASH FROM THE PAST” could be a life changing moment.  So this holiday when the host calls for you to bring something, join me in offering, “I’ll bring the thanks”, along with the pumpkin pie.  It sure beats serving a plate full of bitterness at the Thanksgiving Feast, does it not!!!