Helen Keller has always been one of my hero’s. Despite being born blind, her sight was better than most people. Helen Keller and I share a common bond. I too am legally blind with 20 -200 vision. I was the only four year old wearing blue glasses, before eye glasses were a fashion statement. Soon those coke bottle glasses were replaced with contact lenses. Proudly, I became undercover blind; only my optometrist knew my secret defect. Thankfully, I could see clearly, with a little correction.
Marriage is a lot like a good eye exam. A spouse sees you for what you are, defects and all. Marriage has a way of taking masks off and revealing the real you, sometimes with no makeup on, sporting bad breath, or on a not so good hair day. Spouses see you when you have one nerve left and everyone is getting on it. They are on the scene when you are over committed and under patient. They are invited to the pity party when you are out of sorts and decide to tell all. Sometimes they are the bull’s eye that you are aiming your words at; unfortunately those words hit the target of their heart. Life has no delete button, and there is no rewind or the ability to white out a bad day. What they see is what they get. Spouses see the parts of our personalities that we are blind to. They are looking at us with 20-20 vision daily; even on the days we do not want to repeat.
A listening ear to correction can help us see ourselves clearly with the aid of their 20-20 insight; instead of with our rose colored glasses. If their correction is given with a dose of understanding, and the assurance of their love, it will breed the courage to try and improve. Everyone makes mistakes, and life is too short to sweat the small stuff. Helen Keller needed a little help from her teacher Anne Sullivan. Helen listened attentively, learned quickly and it made a difference.
Live your marriage well, point out the blind spots to each other in love. Be the good example to teach the next generation, that a good marriage is one where you bear with one another patiently, and forgive each other from the heart. Finally, remember to put on your rose colored glasses when looking at your spouse; enjoy the view!
Accessorize with virtue ladies. Along with your rose colored glasses, wear a humble heart.