“And they lived happily ever after! The End!”
Doesn't every woman want that to be their fairy tale ending? After all, Cinderella, Snow White and Belle
finished their stories with these words. We however do not live in Disney World where
pretend dreams come true. We live in
reality land, where if we lose our glass slipper, we usually have to find it
ourselves. If we eat a bad apple, rarely
does Prince Charming come running to our side with a kiss. We live in a land where there are dishes to
do, clothes to wash, meals to cook, and we are up to our eyeballs with e-mails. You may sometimes feel, the faster you go the
more behind you get! In this busy life, how
can we find the time to make our husbands feel they are “King of His Castle?” A friend once said, “If something is
important enough to you, you will find the time to do it.” Ask yourself this question, how important is
your marriage?
Marriage Tips
1.
Vow to be a good communicator. Don’t use words like always and never, especially
when arguing. Communicate with
kindness!
2.
Love him his way. If he likes dark chocolate, buy it for him
occasionally as a special treat. If he
likes blue color, be sure to often buy his clothing and yours in that color. If he hates spinach then don’t serve it. If it is important to him to have a tidy home,
recruit the children to help pick up before he walks in from work. Remember, his first impression sets the tone
for the evening.
3.
Be an
encourager by patting him on the back with words. Never bring up a difficult topic as he leaves
the house. Remember timing is
everything.
4.
Greet
your husband with a kiss when he comes home.
Give him a few minutes of your undivided attention, letting him know he
was missed followed by some alone time to unwind. “Alone time” is what men often treasure, so
be generous. Avoid greeting him with a
chore, or a child to take care of: give him
a chance to take a breath and maybe pour him a cool drink.
5.
Plan a surprise get-away weekend. Make it memorable and unforgettable, by
choosing a place he enjoys.
6.
Get a professional
glamour shot of you for his office.
Surprise him with it, even if it’s not his birthday. Gifts are more meaningful if it’s not a special
occasion, but just because!
7.
In our marriage if someone dislikes doing a
particular job, the other picks up the slack as a “labor of love.” We are all different, to one a burdensome
chore can be a blessing to another.
8.
Men need
to be respected. Negative words spoken
in public can crush his fragile male ego. Avoid sarcasm, mocking or negative
comments. This could close his heart towards
you. Words wound, so guard your tongue,
even if you have to stop talking mid-sentence.
9.
Don’t share with your girlfriends anything that
will embarrass or show him in a bad light.
Err towards love. Think confidentiality.
This may take some time if you have
already established a bad habit. A true
friend will be willing to avoid negative chit chat and call you on when you
stumble.
10.
Ask your
husband to go for a walk and talk after dinner each night. You can catch up on each other’s life and get
your exercise as well.
11.
Start and end the day by praying together. Daily make God a part of your married life.
12.
Read the same book and discuss it together. This will help you communicate on a deeper
level.
13.
Get a new
hairdo or outfit that is not your usual style.
Make new friends, fix a gourmet meal, meet your mate for lunch, or even
write him a poetic love letter. Variety
adds spice to life; dare to be different.
It can breathe new life into your relationship.
14.
Set the
dinner table with china and put on your best dress. Enjoy a candle lit dinner, just for two. Linger longer and listen to each other more
attentively. After dinner say, “Let’s
have coffee and talk” as you serve a special homemade dessert.
15.
Schedule a date weekly. Take turns planning the date.
16.
Write a list of ten reasons why I love you and
have him do the same. Then each writes a
list of “ten ways I like to be loved.” Make two copies of each list. Keep one copy and give him the other. Spend some time talking about the lists
together. If your husband’s way of
feeling loved is service, ask him each day how you can serve him. If he
likes to receive presents, give generously.
If you want to live happily
together, you must put time and effort into your relationship with your
spouse. Going the extra mile, and taking
time to fertilize your marriage with love, shows your man that you are glad you
chose him from the whole world to marry!
Maybe he does not find the glass slipper you lost as you ran home from
the Ball. Maybe he does not wake you up with
a kiss when you are sick, but does he still take your breath away? Well don’t just tell him you love him, show
him! Make him feel he is “King of the
Castle” and you will be on the road to “happily ever after! The End!”
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